This should be an easy one. The entire premise of this blog series is telling you what I want you to know. I want you to know what I’ve learned about writing and being authentic. I want you to know this knowledge was mostly gained through trial and error and failure. Lots of failure. I hope to help you avoid repeating my lengthy learning curve, so that your start your writing life with permission and confidence to do as you please.

I want you to know there’s nothing more important or emotionally fulfilling than being and expressing your authentic self. In my blog the past few years, I’ve shared the following quotes more than once:

“There is only one like you in the whole world. There’s never been anyone exactly like you before, and there will never be again.”
– Mr. Rogers

“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”
– Gospel of Thomas

I want you to know that what you feel, observe, experience, and believe are worth writing about. You don’t need a hot premise or grand insight or epic tale. Those are nice to have, perhaps even necessary if you want to sell some books, but your most important raw material is already inside you.

A former co-worker once joked that a recent meeting lasted long enough for everything to be said and for everyone to get the chance to say it. This is also true of writing. If you believe someone else has already said what you’d like to say, you are correct. It’s all been said before. But no one has said it from your perspective, in the way that you’ll say it.

The stories will continue until everything has been said and everyone has had a chance to say it.

Your story or novel or blog may reach an audience that hasn’t heard it before, or readers who need to hear this story from your point of view, in your voice. I may read a bit of philosophy or advice nine times without absorbing it, but experience an a-ha moment when a tenth person says the same thing in a different way that connects with my experience and way of thinking.

I’m asking you to be that tenth person.

No one owns a monopoly on ideas. Write to the people who are interested in what you have to say. If someone isn’t interested, they aren’t your audience.

Here’s a confession: While writing these posts, I’ve hit those same roadblocks. I know I’m not breaking new ground here. I’m sure someone else has said this before and probably said it better. I worried I was wasting my time and possibly embarrassing myself.

But I reminded myself – I’m not writing for the people who have read all this before. I’m not writing for people who have more ideas than they can handle. I set out to write about how we embark on creative work and why and how we struggle. I wanted to talk to other writers who, like me, thought they hadn’t anything interesting to write about, and I wanted to help them find what they already had.

I haven’t said anything new, but I hope I said it differently, and I’m confident I said it my way. That’s what I want for you.

There is no guaranteed outcome. Not everyone can write well. You may have an audience of zero. That is beside the point. Your creativity is yours to express. If you want to write, write.

That is what I want you to know.

Fiction

I don’t intentionally send messages with my fiction, but as I noted, it is not possible for a human to write without any point of view. If you have read AI-generated writing, you have noticed that it feels lifeless. AI can mimic strong sentence structure and style, it can choose great vocabulary words, but it has no point of view. It is incapable of creating feeling. When it tries, its best work is melodrama. I suspect someone fed AI quite a bit of Paul Harvey. You probably don’t know who that is, but look him up and tell me I’m wrong.

Humans have experiences and beliefs that influence our writing. Consider even the most bland, by-the-numbers action thriller. Every one of those stories includes the familiar scene of dithering bureaucrats or some functionary trying to bind the hero in red tape, and inevitably, the hero ignores them. What message is the writer sending? Taking action saves the day. Without that message, you’d have a different story, if any story at all.

I write characters who haven’t quite figured out life. They mess up. They zig when they should zag. They have questions that can’t be answered but they keep looking. Given the choice to change and grow or hold the line, they hold the line. They might have their goal in hand but set it down because they don’t trust victory. They run when they should stay and stay when they should run. They know better and do it anyway.

Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, including this writer, is purely coincidental, I assure you.

Considering my fiction, what do I want my readers to know? Again, I looked to my current and upcoming projects for clues.

• You can do your best and still fail. Join the club.
• Not everyone gets a happy ending or the ending they want. In fact, most people don’t. Character arcs and unambiguous resolutions and hero’s journey are fiction. There is always a day after. But that works in your favor too, because your bad day doesn’t have to be your last day. A new story starts tomorrow.
• Learning from your mistakes is a lot harder than it appears in books. Human beings need a lot more than 300 pages. Sometimes a lifetime isn’t enough.
• Being yourself is your most important work, but this requires that you know yourself. Do the work. Never live a life someone else imagines for you.
• Bloom where you’re planted is good advice, but if you have the choice, uproot. Find better soil, a beautiful view, and great neighbors.
• Trust your gut.
• Choose your moral values and stick to them. When you feel lost, let them guide you. You may not always win, but you will be right in your soul.
• You are worth it, and you can be redeemed.

Once you have the makings of a moral code – what you believe – you may feel compelled to tell me about it. Unfortunately, outside of a Ted Talk your audience doesn’t want to be lectured. However, when what you believe arises from what you feel about what you’ve experienced, you will find ways in your writing to tell us what you want us to know.

Here we wander into memoir, but this applies to fiction as well. Memoirists want us to know what they’ve experienced, what they feel about it, what they’ve learned, and what beliefs they have adopted. This might involve anything from vacation travel to the death of a loved one, with the important distinction of context. In essence, context tells the reader why this story matters. Without context, a list of your experience will read like an itinerary, whether you traveled through Morocco or a funeral home. With context, such as a new strongly held belief or a human truth, mistakes to avoid or conduct to emulate, you have a unique personal story with a potentially broad application.

For our purposes, I’m bypassing books that lean academic. If you have a special expertise that you’d like us to know about, please write something for us. But those books tend to be more technical in nature, less involved with personal experience and feelings, and that’s the path we’re taking. In this post, I’m talking to the writer who wants me to know about traveling through a foreign country or navigating the healthcare system. You want to document, create order, add context. You want to find closure and find community with people who have lived through the same experiences.

Sometimes, the writer wants to confess.

Writer Julie Powell broke through with her first, Julie & Julia: 365 Days, 524 Recipes, 1 Tiny Apartment Kitchen, in which she wanted readers to know what it was like trying to cook every receipt in Mastering the Art of French Cooking. A travelogue through a cookbook, not a country.

But her much darker follow-up, Cleaving: a Story of Marriage, Meat, and Obsession, Powell wraps the story of her apprenticeship at a family-owned butcher shop around her confession of her ongoing betrayal of her husband via a long affair with a former lover. I don’t know why she wanted us to know that, but she did. And that half of the book reads essentially as confession, with several thousand readers in the other side of the box.

Powell does not try to explain the affair or make excuses. She gives no reason for it, other than physical obsession. She doesn’t pretend that it’s love. Her husband is aware of the affair but she neither ends it nor asks for a divorce. She provides no context, such as a midlife crisis or rocky patch in her marriage. There’s no resolution. Powell’s affair eventually peters out, but she still longs for it. Her marriage does not end, but she doesn’t express any regret or admit she’s learned anything about herself.

You too can write what you want me to know, your adult version of What I Did Over the Summer. You can educate us about something you know or somewhere you’ve been. You can tell us about someone you knew. You can tell us about the worst days of your life and tell people experiencing something similar that they aren’t alone and that they can survive it too. If, like Julie Powell, you’ve committed an intriguing sin, you can confess.

Like most fiction, most memoir is uplifting. Even if there is no happy ending, there is resolution. There’s hope. But also like fiction, memoir can be a downer. It can end ambiguously. It can end without answers to big questions. And that is true to life. We behave in ways we can’t predict, ways that contradict our morals and beliefs. We hurt people we love. We don’t learn lessons. We don’t find our motivation. We don’t resolve our backstory wound. We simply are, and sometimes that’s not attractive.

While memoir is more suited to writing what you want us to know, it is not uncommon in fiction. You simply need to hide it a bit better and aim for the right audience.

Here I’ll dip back into the well of Anne Lamott for some examples of how she used both fiction and memoir to tell her readers what she wanted them to know. Anne Lamott frequently speaks of writing as a gift. She wrote her first novel, Hard Laughter, as a gift for her father, who had been diagnosed with brain cancer and would pass away not long after she completed it. It was also the book she wished she had been able to read during this difficult time.

• She wanted her dad to know that his life mattered, that he would live on in his children and in this book after he died.
• She wanted him to know that she had inherited his talent for writing, that his life mattered to her specifically, and that she had skills to carry her forward. She wanted him to know she’d be alright.
• She wanted the next family to know what they might face after a similar diagnosis, that it was ok to laugh in the face of stress and grief, and that everyone has their own way of coping. She wanted that family to know they weren’t alone.

Similarly, Lamott’s Operating Instructions was the memoir she wished she could read, about being a single mom, both during her pregnancy and in the first few months of her child’s life. As she wrote, her best friend and main support person Pam was diagnosed with breast cancer, and the memoir became a document of Pam’s journey out as well.

• She wanted to her son to know what it was like for her to be single and pregnant, and excited and scared. She wanted him to know where he came from and about the people who helped along the way.
• She wanted other single moms to know about post-partum depression and stress, about puke and not having time to shower, but also about the overwhelming feeling of love she had for her new little person, and that most of the time, the good days outweighed the pukey days.
• She wanted other new moms to know that they did not have to do it all or even half, and that some days simply keeping the new little person alive was the best they could hope for.
• She wanted her son to know Pam, who would die while he was still a toddler. She wanted Pam’s young daughter to have honest, loving stories of her mom’s life, so that she could know her as well.

As an art form, memoir can be daunting. I doubt I could write one. But there are other forms of writing that can express your desire to tell us something important. Write a poem or song lyrics. Write a short story or start a blog. Write a letter to someone you love or a future generation. Write to your past self to explain what went wrong or what went well and what you learned from it. Start simply and move forward.

Write fiction. Kurt Vonnegut wanted his readers to know that war is awful and that life is absurd, but worth living. Margaret Atwood wants her readers to know about the strength of women, their depth of character, their capriciousness, and their struggles. Matt Haig wants his readers to know that being alive, in the body and life you have right now, is pretty great. The comics writer Warren Ellis wants his readers to know that the world is weird and that being weird is wonderful. Toni Morrison wanted us to know about the complex realities, internal lives, and communities of Black Americans, particularly of Black girls.

None of them preach, but they all showed us what they wanted us to know.

Movie mogul Sam Goldwyn famously (allegedly) said “If you want to send a message, try Western Union.” And he was partly right, because modern audiences don’t enjoy morality plays. But he was also mostly wrong, because every story has a message. Every writer wants you to know something. This desire informs their choice of characters, genre, theme, and story.

What I’d like to impress on you is that you can make a conscious choice to tell me something, you can communicate with me with intention, or you can wing it, pretend you don’t have any message, and tell me something anyway. I believe you will find your writing more powerful and more meaningful, and you will feel more motivated to create, if you make the conscious choice to tell me something.

“I want you to know this,” is a bold statement, but then so is “I’m a writer” and you’re already doing that.

Everything you need to create stories is already inside you. You may need to invent some characters or a science fiction world or a murder puzzle, but everything that will make your story come alive, everything that will ensure your story is uniquely yours, is already there.

Next week, we’ll look at permission again and crank it up to 11.

I don’t write my questions as often as I used to. Perhaps because life has answered a lot of them. Given enough time, you will find out where you’ll be in the future and what you’ll become and what the world looks like, whether you want to or not.

So, here we are. This is it.

This is it?

But when I was younger, I did write stories to make sense of life and my big questions. What could I have done differently? Will I still be ‘me’ when I’m older? How will I change and will it be for the better? If not, what can I do now to make sure that doesn’t happen?

I wrote about one of those stories and what happened to it here.

When I was in college, I met my first writer friend. First actual friend, honestly, but also my first writer friend. We both liked poetry, classic post-war fiction, and nihilistic humor. We looked down on a lot of the same people, which is a common bonding approach for 18 year olds. Our writing could not have been more dissimilar – I found it comical that all his stories began with someone taking a slug of alcohol, he complained that nothing happened in mine – but our zeal for writing brought us together.

I moved away after college, when phone calls were expensive and the occasional letter the only way to keep in touch on a budget. I worried that we were slowly losing touch. My friend was still in school, dating girls I never met, working crap jobs without me there to listen to him bitch about them. I was also working crap jobs, living with multiple roommates I had nothing in common with, trying to have a social life while the only places for that were an hour’s drive away. The three-hour time difference didn’t help.

From his letters, I also learned he was still writing. I was not.

I still scribbled in notebooks, but I wasn’t writing with great regularity and without the impetus of classes and compadres, I wasn’t finishing any stories or creative non-fiction. I had gotten caught up in volunteer work, which became the center of both my social and political life (I use the term political rather loosely here…) This was my contribution and it was important to me, but it also took from me. Time, mental energy. I didn’t intend to stop writing, but I drifted away from it.

But as always, I got back to it. And one of the things that brought me back were my questions.

Where would my friend and I be in ten years? There was an above average chance he would be married (and as it turned out, he would) and that I would not (and wasn’t). Would we still be in touch? What would our friendship look like? What if he kept writing and I did not? What would happen if we lost that foundational element of our friendship, our passion for writing and self-expression? Could we still be friends or would I lose that too? Could I imagine a life for myself in which I was no longer a writer?

So I wrote…about us ten years or so in the future. My stand-in character kept an intermittent journal but had lost interest in writing. He has friends but not the kind who challenge or inspire him. His writing feels like kid stuff. He assumes his friend had also experienced this lessening of passion, but discovers he had not. The friend shows him dozens of journals filled with poems and essays he’d written over the years, unpublished but documented, meaningful to him.

What happens next? Not telling. It was a good story. Maybe one day I’ll pull it out of the files and freshen it up. You’ll have to wait until then to find out.

But examining those questions kicked me out of a rut. I didn’t want to be the person who fell out of love with writing. I didn’t want to lose that spark or my connection with other creative people. So I did something about it. I started a writers group at the community center. That eventually turned into the zine we published with our own writing. That led to my volunteer work with a few small theater companies and the production of my (badly written) one-act play, as well as paid writing for some local independent weekly newspapers. I wrote and submitted another story to a national anthology, which the editor said was near the top of his b-list but didn’t quite make the cut. I don’t recall that story with as much fondness, so I suspect he was trying to be encouraging.

All of that because I decided to write what was already inside me – my questions or my anxiety, take your pick – and explore possible answers. Even all these years later, I still consider it one of my better stories, even without a high concept, quirky protagonist, or outlandish situations.

I had another story I could have shared here, one that examined questions about my family and what might explain some of their behavior. I wanted to figure them out. I wanted to feel empathy for people I didn’t understand and test drive some conversations I might have around our problems. In the end, I gave that protagonist a piece of a happy ending, devoting almost an entire chapter to a gift he’s given, something he has wanted for a long time but didn’t believe was possible. The gesture resolves a lot of his questions and the pain he carried, and opens new avenues for him. Simply writing out this development made me feel a little better, even though I knew this gift was only fictional. It felt good even to imagine it might exist.

About a year later, in the real world, I received an identical gift from a family member. Not metaphorically identical, but supernaturally identical. The exact thing I had given my protagonist. Exactly as I wrote it. And it had the same effect on me that it did on my fictional stand-in, with the added magical sensation of holding in my hands something I was certain did not exist, something that could not exist so I had to write a story about it in order to give it to myself.

I can’t promise that the act of writing out your questions will manifest similar real-world gifts for you, but I can’t say it won’t.

Writing is magic.

You might write to entertain or educate. You might write because you want to communicate, to tell stories about people like you, to let others know they are not alone in the world. You might write simply because you enjoy it and you’re good at it.

Sometimes, you may choose to write a story or poem or essay to ask questions, as a form of exploration.

This inquiry overlaps with the question of theme, but can explode into other directions. Considered thematically, your exploratory writing might consider the existence or nature of God, or the source or meaning of evil. You might look for meaning in life, a purpose for our being alive. History, morality, free will, identity, power, what it means to be human…all big questions and major themes in literature.

But you might also have smaller, more personal questions.

Other people

While one writer tries to throw his arms around the nature of evil, you might ask similar questions about people you know. Why was my parent abusive? Why did my spouse cheat? Why does my child act in a manner so far outside my morality?

You are allowed to write about what you don’t understand. You have permission to speculate, even about someone you know in real life.

Do you have such questions or people in your life? Take a step backwards from the situation and treat the individual as you might a character in a story. Write what you know about their background and their personality as you experienced it. What do you know about their successes and disappointments, the people who shaped them? Write what you know about their morality, their choices, the repercussions, their mental state, and any external factors that could have made an impact.

Though the focus of your exploration is a specific person, event, or brief time, you still tap into broader themes. Write until you begin to understand them. Write until you begin to feel empathy. Write until you start to root for them.

You may never know the right answer, but you may develop theories.

Yourself

You can also turn this lens on yourself. When have you let yourself down? When have you acted not your best? What could you have done differently? Write a new ending to the story.

Don’t limit yourself to looking backwards. Speculate about what’s coming next. Write about your future and where you might end up. Who is with you? Who doesn’t make it?

What would your parents be like as grandparents? What would you say to your high school bully or worst teacher if you met them again as an adult? Will they change? What will become of you and your best friend? What’s going to become of your wild, reckless cousin?

Perhaps you’d like to write about the person you want to become. Create a character who is not you but who embodies the qualities you admire and would like to emulate. Who would you become if you could be anyone?

You cannot literally become a new person, but you can steal their qualities for yourself. What would you look like if you were braver, more confident, less distracted, less mindful of negativity? What if you were the person who followed your dreams, instead of the one on the sidelines?

And what if you don’t evolve? We’re not required to change and most humans don’t. We learn, we grow a bit, we make incremental change, but at a fundamental level, most people stay on the path where they are set. What would happen to you then?

Another way to frame this question is to write about what worries or scares you. Imagine a life where the worst happens and another where the best happens. What choices take you down those paths?

Write until you can see an ending for yourself and if you want, write a better one.

All of us

You can also turn this inquiry to civilization. What would the world look like if you could choose our path? Writers envisioning the future often turn to dystopia, as in Brave New World, 1984, The Hunger Games, The Handmaid’s Tale, and Parable of the Sower, but you might prefer to explore a world more to your liking, as in the Culture series, The Ministry for the Future, or Walkaway. Or you might like to imagine one of each, as Marge Piercy did in Woman on the Edge of Time.

The two basic questions

Underneath your explorations are two essential questions: Why? and What will happen?

If you’re looking backward, ask why and keep asking why until you reach an answer that feels right to you. Consider someone’s behavior – negative or positive, though you might find that negative behavior elicits stronger emotions and memories – and make your inquiries. Ask why about their surface behavior, their motivations, they underlying emotions, the source of those emotions. Go back until you find the root of the issue. The person whose behavior you question can also be yourself.

When you’re looking forward, ask what will happen. What will happen if I don’t change, if I leave this situation, if my dream comes true or doesn’t? What will happen if (when) I lose someone important to me or lose my health? What if the world doesn’t get any better (by whatever measure you choose). What if it does? Consider what these possible futures look like, what events take you there, and who else is there. Imagine how you’ll feel and how others around you might react and behave.

Is this therapy?

Maybe.

It depends on the questions you have and how you approach them. In general, I find people unfathomable, so I write, in part, to understand them. Writing is my way to getting my arms around the world, to make the messiness of life a bit more manageable.

When I was younger, I also had a lot of questions that my family, religion, and education didn’t help answer. Writing gave me a way to tackle those questions privately, in my own way and in my own time.

Writing can be cathartic. It can provide understanding and perhaps closure.

Your mileage may vary. How you use it is up to you.

Bringing it together

As I continue through this list of what we know, you can see how all the disparate things we know begin to converge.

Your questions about human nature and behavior arise from what you’ve observed and learned. Your questions about the past are influenced by what you’ve experienced, and perhaps by your obsessions and fascinations. Your speculations about what may become of you, your loved ones, or the whole of civilization grow from what you are observing about them today.

What you do with these questions depends on how you feel about what you’ve experienced and observed, what you’ve learned and what you believe.

In contrast to previous topics, writing your questions requires you to lean into speculation and fiction. The answers are things that haven’t happened yet, or something you can never know with certainty. And yet, your questions about life are your own. They are already inside you. Your answers are as unique as your experiences and observations.

I reiterate that this doesn’t require you to think in grand terms or explore universal questions. You have permission to write about yourself without worrying that anyone else will find it relatable.

It’s human nature to wonder where we come from and where we’re headed. Don’t be afraid to ask.

Unlike nearly everything else I’ve written, this post would have been easier to write when I was a kid.

I was a child of obsessions. Unfortunately, none of my obsessions turned out to be very useful in adulthood. I could have hyper-fixated on physics or chemistry or higher math, but no. Instead, I lost myself in comic books, television, and mystery novels, over time progressing from Encyclopedia Brown to the Hardy Boys to Agatha Christie.

I don’t have those kind of obsessive interests any more. I’m not going to regale you with trivia about early 20^th century jazz or the minutiae of post-modernist theater or the New York School of artists and writers.

When I spoke of writing what you know, I described myself as a jack of some things, master of none, and that’s a fair assessment of my mindset when it comes to obsessions and fascinations. I have a lot of individual interests, but I tend to delve into them to the extent I needed them for a specific purpose. I might be a more interesting character if I cultivated a serious geekdom around something I enjoy – mid-century confessional poetry, Grand Guignol theater, 80s independent film – but on the other hand, at this stage of my life, whom would I entertain with my repertoire?

My geekdom

I do have interests. I am drawn to specific types of characters and stories in film, television, and books, and am repelled by others. I have tastes. I’m not a Philistine, even if some of my tastes are lower brow.

If I were to emulate someone like Howard Chaykin, who combined his interests in jazz, sex, politics, demons, and zombies in his masterful Time², what niche interests would I pick?

If I were writing the most indulgent work imaginable, it would likely feature some combination of tough women and mean gays, secret societies, kid gangs and chosen families, political intrigue, fringe religions, the Kennedy curse, comic books, early 20th century European literature, ghosts, Nazis, writers and artists, theater and film, time travel, talking apex predators, conspiracy theories, Celtic mythology, alternate worlds, and doppelgangers.

Probably not all in the same novel, but that would be pretty cool now that I think about it.

My themes

That said, I do have ideas and questions that I explore repeatedly, even when I’m not aware that’s where I’m headed. My characters ask questions like:

• Who am I?
• Where do I belong?
• How do I choose between belonging and being myself?
• When do I start getting it right?
• Who do I trust?
• What hill will I die on?

Even if I didn’t want it to, my indulgent novel would inevitably explore themes of identity, purpose, individuality and authenticity, spirituality, alienation, belonging, and sacrifice, wrapped up with more questions than answers. There’d be awkward sex, moral codes, casual violence, vengeance, loss, family secrets, love’s cruelty, passion for creation, and resistance and dignity in the face of life’s absurdity.

It would definitely mash up genres (SF, fantasy, horror, true crime, murder mystery, superhero, alternative history) and if I could work in an Excel spreadsheet, ice cream, and a dinosaur, I’d be in Heaven.

I could have titled this segment “Write Your Geekdom” but I didn’t want to give non-geeks the wrong idea.

But also, you’re a geek. Maybe you aren’t a traditional geek, immodestly obsessed with science fiction and fantasy books, films, and other paraphernalia, but you go hard for your hobbies, interests, and likes. You might be a sports or political geek, or a music or film geek. You might be a foodie or love gardening. If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you’re pursuing some creative geekery.

Put simply, a geek is someone who loves what they love, passionately and unapologetically. And you must love something.

My favorite books are those in which the writers put it all on the page, not only their passions or deep background knowledge, but all the fringe elements and garnishes that make the work uniquely theirs, the kind of book that could not have been written by anyone but that single author.

I see a lot of this in comics, a form that lends itself to both geekdom and mashing up varied concepts. In the world of comics, writers have to be comfortable indulging their interests. It’s easier now that superhero film franchises make multi-millions at the box office, but still – the people who write and draw comics aren’t doing it for the money or prestige. No one is writing about superheroes with a Pulitzer in mind.

Side note: Of course, I’m referring to comic books, not comic strips. Charles Schulz, Bill Watterson, and Garry Trudeau did make tons of money and win prizes. But only the very luckiest and most popular of comic book writers and artists have that kind of breakthrough.

Aztec Ace; art by Dan Day

In a comic called Aztec Ace, writer Doug Moench created a comic that combined a vast range of interests: time travel, the Aztecs (naturally), Depression-era America, Sigmund Freud, comic books and pulp magazines, and philosophical paradoxes. The result is a compelling, intelligent, and yet action-packed science fiction/mystery adventure comic. It’s Dr. Who for conspiracy theorists, with gams and boobs. It’s astonishing how much detail Moench crammed into a single-issue script, and yet the comics never felt crowded or over-written.

Time2: The Epiphany by Howard Chaykin

In Time², writer/artist Howard Chaykin explored an other-world where time is experienced at a different level, and where demons, advanced robotics, and zombies co-exist. Film noir mobsters, city politics, urban renewal, Jazz-era New York, and sex collide in Chaykin’s most personal work. Chaykin has said he did not expect Time2 to find a large audience, either at the time of its creation or later. He proudly affirms that – damn the torpedoes – these stories were for him.

When he launched Time², Chaykin was coming off his very popular American Flagg! series, which itself was an amalgam of Chaykin’s interests in speculative fiction, late stage capitalism, pop culture, sex kinks, and soft-core porn, which formed the foundation for a series of stories that were part science fiction and part political thriller, with frequent interludes for quickie encounters between the protagonist and various side characters, and sometimes side characters with each other.

Your geekdom

Investigating your obsessions is a bit of a throwback to write what you know, but with the added spice of permission to indulge a niche interest. The best part? You can write about whatever you want. That’s always the best part of creative writing, but it’s especially true here.

If you are writing a blog or memoir, here is where you find topics. Do you want to write 1,000 words about an alien who appears on-screen for 8 seconds in the original Star Wars? Go for it! Do you have esoteric knowledge about some kind of craft or manufacturing, the natural world, politics, or pop culture? Break down what you know in ecstatic detail.

Pretend you’re writing for an audience that is as deeply invested as you are. No one will try to change the subject. No one will accuse you of hijacking the conversation. No one’s eyes will glaze over with disinterest. Picture your readers being enthralled by your nuggets of information and insight. If you choose the blog route, and if you are consistent and good, you will find those people. It may take time, but – as I often tell myself – you are not a unicorn. There are other people with your interests and they would like to know you.

If you are writing fiction, give your geekdoms to your characters. Why shouldn’t your police detective collect Star Wars action figures? Why can’t an attorney chase UFOs in her spare time? Why shouldn’t a construction worker follow the various threads of JFK assassination conspiracy theories?

Imagine a Tarantino film without a main character delivering an extended monologue about a piece of trivia, niche interest, or pet peeve. You probably can’t.

Speaking of which, pet peeves are another great obsession to explore. Mine include people who need to look at the menu at a fast food restaurant, drivers who repeatedly tap their breaks on the highway, and people who don’t pick up after their dogs. If I gave my pet peeves to a protagonist, I could fill half my word count with complaints.

If you’re willing to go deep with your weird obsessions, doling out hobbies like knitting, gardening, or cooking should be even easier. Let your characters be smart and a bit obsessive, but first, start with you. What grabs you?

Your themes

Hobbies and interests are merely the external interests that may obsess you.

As you write, you may find yourself returning to certain questions and ideas. The same situations and themes will bubble up again and again. You may sense some overriding emotions that surface no matter what you’re writing about.

You may come back to questions such as “Where do we come from?” or “Why are we here?” Depending on your writing, you might explore different phrasings of those questions or discover new answers. Perhaps you want to explore fear or the various ways humans find and express love.

As you progress in your writing, you may fear that you are repeating yourself. This may be true especially when you explore questions that don’t have an explicit answer, such as why people do evil things. However, don’t shy away from your big questions and ideas that fascinate you.

Anne Tyler has never tired of writing about suburban, middle class family life in Baltimore, Maryland, but while her stories may feel familiar, she does not repeat herself. Steven Spielberg explores his sense of wonder in the universe, including the concept that humans on Earth are not alone. Martin Scorsese returns again and again to the nature of violence, often in films about the mob, but not only there.

What questions do you have about life or human nature? What themes would you like to explore? If you’re not sure where to start, consider the books, film, and television shows you enjoy watching. What do they have in common? What questions do they ask?

As with all our topics, start simply. Once you begin, find areas that intrigue you and go deeper. Trust yourself and trust the writing. Keep exploring.

I believe a lot of things, probably many of the same things you do. I believe in honesty, forgiveness, peaceful co-existence, a bit of charity. I have political beliefs, which are not germane to our relationship.

But those aren’t necessarily the beliefs that are important to my writing. What do I feel so strongly that I write about it, perhaps without realizing it? If a reader had to guess any of my philosophies, could they find evidence in my work?

I looked to my current and upcoming projects for clues.

• All but the very worst people can be redeemed. They won’t be, but they could be.
• Showing up is half the battle, but understanding when and where to show up is more important.
• Everyone has a reason for what they do. The reason almost always involves something that hurt them.
• Life is better when you belong to a family or community, but it is misery when you are trapped in the wrong one.
• People don’t always learn from their mistakes. Sometimes, the best a person can do is make different mistakes.
• Life is best lived through a strong moral code. People without a code lack direction and tend to drift. People who violate their code eventually become miserable. People with an immoral code usually do alright.
• Knowing yourself can take a lifetime, but the journey inward is worth it. Most people don’t take it.
• You need grit to be yourself in a world that wants you to be anything but.
• It is important to have faith, and your strongest faith should be in yourself.
• When all else fails, double down.

You are a partisan. You have a moral point of view. You can’t resist it, so make the best of it.

Only the foolish writer would argue that his writing betrays no evidence of his personal beliefs, opinions, or biases. We do not all believe the same things, but we believe and those beliefs drive our choices, including of what we write. If you are embarking on a writing life or struggling with where to start or what to say, look to your beliefs.

Unless you are the Unabomber or Valerie Solanas, no one wants to read your political manifesto and very few readers will tolerate a story that preaches a moral value. However, your moral, ethical, intellectual, political, and artistic beliefs – whether you realize it or not and even if you don’t want them to – form the basis for everything you will write.

My belief is that writers approach their work with more thoughtfulness and integrity when they understand and choose their values before the writing begins.

When you write from a moral point of view, you are writing with intention. You have purpose. Your story has meaning. You know what you want to say, even when you aren’t sure of the best way to say it.

This is especially important if you feel stuck for ideas. I have found in my writing that the desire to say something is enough to power me through any obstacles that inevitably arise. If I want it badly enough, I’ll find a way, and I believe this will be true for you, too.

Personal beliefs

As with every source of raw material we have discussed, your beliefs are personal. They are already within you. Maybe you haven’t thought about them too much. You probably have never taken the time to write them down. You might find it hard to get started with this inventory, so go easy on yourself. You may find it difficult to put your core values into words, but this is a valuable avenue of introspection for the writer.

As always, I recommend that you start simply.

Honesty is the best policy. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Actions speak louder than words.

These are clichés but the point is to get your thoughts flowing. Begin with your basic morality, the way you live life or the way you try to. If your beliefs are guided by religion, there is another avenue for you to explore. If they are not guided by religion, explore that. Ask yourself why. What do you believe about religion, if you don’t believe in religion itself?

Ponder social issues. If you can stand it, watch cable news and make a list of current political topics or controversies. Don’t default to the position of any particular party or politico, and don’t lean on slogans. Think through what you believe and why. If you could solve a social problem, how would you do it? Why would you? What beliefs would guide you?

What makes a good father or mother? What do we owe our previous generations? What do we owe the next? Do we owe them anything at all?

You may celebrate the extended nuclear family or instead value the chosen family. You might hail the virtues of stolid independence or the warmth of community and belonging. You might have an opinion about assimilation versus separatism. You may believe in the value of helping others or that charity makes one weak, or even both at the same time. You may believe in god or not, in fate or not, in redemption or not. Your moral code may reflect life as you have experienced it or embody the kind of person you wish to become. Does your writing lean into harsh truths or hopeful yearnings? It’s up to you.

As you write through your beliefs, back up your thoughts with evidence. Why is your moral belief correct? When have you seen it in action? What happens when people don’t abide by your moral code? Go back to your feelings, your observations, and your experiences to find support for your beliefs.

Human nature

Write what you believe about human nature.

It is possible that you have come to similar conclusions or adopted another person’s belief about human nature, as many have done with the quote from Anne Frank. I suspect adherence to that belief is more aspirational than most like to admit, but it remains something worth believing in.

What have you observed about other people or yourself?

Aphorisms about human nature capture how people act on repeat. What do you observe in human nature over and over and over? Your belief may be true about all people – according to you – or it may be true about a subset of people.

What is the best way to live life? All out or with guard rails? Do you pursue goals no matter the cost or do other considerations come first? Does the end justify the method you used to achieve it?

At his trial on charges of corrupting youth, Socrates purportedly said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Do you agree? What does that mean to you?

The real world

Let’s look at some real world examples to spark your imagination.

During the spring, I re-read Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird for the umpteenth time and blogged my thoughts on her advice and observations. In the book, she shares one of her core beliefs: Grace bats last.

By that she means that good eventually wins out over evil and adversity, that we will find comfort and maybe some understanding at the end. Others have phrased this same belief with slightly different words:

In All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten, Robert Fulghum presented his beliefs for living in language even children can understand: Share everything. Play fair. Don’t hit people. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Don’t take things that aren’t yours. Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.

In the movie Bull Durham, Kevin Costner’s Crash Ryan had a slightly more colorful statement of beliefs. Pardon his French.

At the beginning of this series, I shared this quote from The Martian that I believe reflects Andy Weir’s approach to life:

In his A Song of Ice and Fire series, George R.R. Martin wrote a family motto for each of the major families of Westeros. While none of these are lengthy statements of beliefs, is there any doubt the families lived by these credos? Anyone familiar with the novels or HBO program could create lists of “I believe…” statements for the families flowing from these creeds:

Ours is the Fury (Baratheon)
Winter is Coming (Stark)
Hear Me Roar! (Lannister)
As High as Honor (Arryn)
Family, Duty, Honor (Tully)
Growing Strong (Tyrell)
We Do Not Sow (Greyjoy)
Unbowed, Unbent, Unbroken (Martell)
Fire and Blood (Targaryen)

Your writing

You might write what you believe about writing itself. Should stories show us how life is or how life should be? How should a story make us feel? Do you intend to disturb or comfort or do you attempt neutrality? Should a story teach or only entertain?

Do you write to communicate, to leave a legacy, to make others feel less alone?

Should you write about people not like yourself? How do you balance the competing interests of representation and appropriation?

No matter where you sit in the writing life, take a moment to think about what it means to you. What can you do with it? What will it do for you?

What do you believe?

I suggested you approach learning as a joyful pursuit, which I would not have done if I didn’t love researching and learning new information so much.

Seriously. I love geeking out with a new topic, especially if it’s a topic that has practical application in the real world or in my writing. Even when I’m struggling with some element of story – a scene that doesn’t work, dialogue that wanders, description that feels trite – I love the hunt for good advice and creative strategy. I treat writing blocks as puzzles to solve and get a bit tingly when it all comes together.

So what have I learned? I’ve learned a lot about writing and being creative and being true to yourself. I’ve already shown you quite a lot of that. That’s the point of this series. I hope sharing what I’ve learned shortens someone else’s learning curve or helps them feel less lost or alone.

But there’s more!

Study

I have written that I’m a jack of many fields of knowledge but master of none. This is true. I tend to follow an obsession for as long as it intrigues me, but no further. I wish I had chosen a few topics to which I could have truly dedicated myself, but sometimes life gives you enough energy to get from A to Z and do a little shopping without a lot left over. I am satisfied with my capacity to research, learn, and retain new information and that’s sufficient for me. I know that if I want to throw myself into a field of knowledge, I’m capable of it.

These days, I tend to learn what I need in the moment for my writing. Medieval weaponry, how tornados form, life in 1930s Arkansas, President Eisenhower’s initiation to expand the interstate highway system in the 1950s and its repercussions for small town America, the contents of London’s Victoria and Albert Museum circa 1890. Much of that goes out as soon as I get it into a document, but I have it and I confess getting lost in the occasional research hole.

Experience

Life is a tough teacher. It’s tougher when you don’t listen. If you don’t learn the lesson the first time around, the next test in the same subject is more difficult.

Here are a few things I’ve learned, and some of this required summer school. I don’t have the space to tell you how I learned all this, but believe me…I have stories.

Never let anyone else define what success looks like for you. Set your own goalposts in life. Move them if you like, but never let anyone else touch them.

You cannot please a person who does not want to be pleased. You will know this person cannot be pleased because they will keep moving your goal posts.

You cannot help a person who does not want to be helped. If you keep trying, they will drag you down to their level. Sometimes this level is underwater.

If someone takes advantage of you or treats you with disrespect, the first time is on them. If they do it twice, it’s because you’ve given them permission.

A cheater will cheat, no matter how often you change the rules to accommodate them. The same applies to people who ignore boundaries.

Never assume a conspiracy without first ruling out incompetence and greed.

Never trust a creative person who is not generous with advice, and never take advantage of one who is.

Ask for help when you need it. The people who love you want you to ask.

When you have the chance to pursue an opportunity, ask yourself which part of you wants it: Your soul or your ego? Chase the goal that satisfies the former, be wary of the goal that intrigues the latter.

Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary. That’s Oscar Wilde, but it’s true.

Never marry someone who doesn’t love the movies you love. Sooner or later, that person will not love you. That’s Roger Ebert, and that is also true.

If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. That is from the Book of Matthew and that is also true. Apply this advice to people and book reviews.

You’re lucky if you believe you are. When you feel unlucky, look for the silver lining.

The best way to learn is by doing. Try, fail, and try again. Learning what not to do is also valuable. You’ll figure it out.

Trust your gut. Believe in yourself. You may achieve only 10 percent of what you want in life, but that’s more than zero and more than most people do.

Dreams will shrink to fit into the space you make for them, but dreams will also grow to fill the space you give them. Plan accordingly.

Earlier I wrote that the difference between observation and experience is often a matter of choice. You cannot orchestrate the actions of others or arrange a natural setting to your tastes, but usually we choose our experiences. No one climbs a mountain by accident. Until they do.

Sometimes experiences befall us, whether we welcome them or not. Illness, accidents, crime, unemployment, a failure of some kind. Our mishaps may result from our choices, but we rarely choose the bad outcome on purpose. Occasionally, we may even stumble into good fortune and that too can seem random.

Whether and what we learn from these experiences is always a choice.

Experience

Experience is our best teacher, we are told. Learn from failure. Learn from your mistakes. This is good advice. While we often repeat our mistakes and failures, none of us enjoy the process. But we also have good learning experiences, when we solve a problem, handle a crisis, or succeed in an endeavor. Sometimes it is easier to remember what not to do than to figure out what we did well, but the information is there. You have likely had good learning experiences from talking to people, reading, listening, researching, studying, and taking classes.

Brainstorm what you’ve learned. Think of mistakes you made. “I’ll never do that again!” is a great place to start, but don’t stop there. Look backwards to examine what led you to the mistake. Did you lack a life skill, such as open communication? Did you rely on bad advice? Did you doubt yourself? Go into as much detail as you can. Why did you take that bad advice? Did your gut tell you it was bad when you heard it? Who or what taught you to doubt yourself?

You’re allowed to write about these things. The result might be something less than a full story but something more than a journal entry. Try not to paint yourself as the victim, but also don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes. Do your best to maintain a neutral tone as you write. Stick to facts.

Consider your successes as well. Have you experienced moments when good planning paid off or you took a calculated risk that proved the right one? What risk did you take? Who supported you or didn’t? Did you have to make an emotional leap of faith, for example by trusting your gut or some untested skill? Maybe you overcame negative thinking or a poor belief. You might have learned that trusting your skills and experience leads to better outcomes than being modest about your accomplishments. What steps did you take? What were the crossroads? What might have happened if you chose the other path? What obstacles did you face?

You can also learn by observing human nature in others. Perhaps you have learned that people would rather be told an affirming lie than a truth that might call into question what they believe. You may have noticed that some people will work very hard to avoid a task, when actually doing the task would have taken less time and energy, and created a better outcome. A fairly common observation about human nature is that we often accuse another person of what we are guilty of.

Some of what you learn about human nature will be specific to a few or even one person. Sometimes, you will discover a truism that you believe defines human existence. Write them down. When you write your stories, these observations of the human experience will help you develop character and theme.

Study

You also have likely taken a more active hand in learning by reading, researching, or taking a class. This calls back a bit to write what you know – hard facts, information you could teach to someone else – but also, you should take note of what you would like to learn.

Do you have any curiosity about the natural world, geography, history, politics, languages, carpentry, physics, race car driving? Make a list and spend some time doing that, and then write about it. Yes, this sounds like homework, but most writing is essentially homework, so you should become accustomed to it.

You don’t have to write a thesis paper or book report. Write about your interest in the topic and where you found new information and what surprised or intrigued you. Write as if you were telling an interested friend about what you discovered. In addition to being good practice, writing about what you’ve learned is an excellent way of committing the information to memory.

What you’ve learned this way often goes into creating verisimilitude in your writing, the internal consistency and believability that helps your readers suspend their disbelief. If it is important that your protagonist has carpentry skills, you might buy books, watch instructional videos, take a class, or talk to experts. Be wary of writing what you don’t know or winging it.

Whatever you write, have fun with it. As you begin writing, you are embarking on a journey of continuous learning. Every piece you write will present its own challenges. Every story, setting, character, and theme will be different from the last.

If you approach learning as a joyful pursuit, you will never have a day of drudgery.