What You’re Not
The above quote has been touring the internet for awhile, and the first time I saw it, it hit home pretty hard. I’ve run across it a few times and it hasn’t lost its punch.
This applies to me both personally and creatively. I was raised in a very conservative fringe religion, which I rejected in my late teens. I came out in early twenties and never looked back or played it straight. In my thirties, after leaving an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship, I spent a long time working through my anger and rebuilding my self-esteem and friendships.
I’m not the writer I thought I’d be when I was a kid. But I’m not an automaton operating at the behest of misogynist gaslighting religionists, I’m not cowering in the closet, and I’m not afraid of doing the work it takes to not be an asshole. I fought hard not to become those things. Life would have been easier if I hadn’t had to. Maybe I would have been on that creative path I always dreamed about. But, that wasn’t the choice I was given.
I’m not yet the best version of myself, but I’m far from the worst.
When the going gets tough, when you feel that you haven’t made the progress you should have or you haven’t been as successful as you could have been, remember what you’re not. Celebrate who could have become but didn’t, whatever that means to you.
I’m tired of thinking about all that other crap, so today I’ll celebrate that I never became the person who quit.
Who am I?
I’m Will. I write.
I write well and make good money at it, but you won’t see the corporate money makers here. I also write fiction, and think I’m good enough to talk about it. That’s what you’ll find.
I’m smart, sometimes too logical for my own good, and socially anxious, which makes blogging both fraught with danger and a safe way to interact with the world, depending on which devil’s on my shoulder. I’m the result of very poor parenting and excellent adult friendships.
I don’t lie. I’ll try not to lead you astray. I avoid giving advice, but I’ll share whatever I know about whatever I know. If you’re interested.
Here you may find notes about the writing life, my inspirations, what I’m working on, my obsessions, my friends and their work and their obsessions. If I work hard and have some luck, maybe some writing success stories. Some journaling and memories. There’s a good chance I’ll talk about depression and isolation, because it helps and because you’re not alone. Probably some complaining and the occasional rant. Almost certainly some one-off posts showing off whatever catches my eye or blabbing on about some weird thought that popped into my head. Can’t have enough of those.
I’ll try to keep the dream journals to a minimum, but I do have some wicked cool dreams. You won’t be sorry.
Things I like, in no particular order: comics, art, literature, travel, new languages, noveling and short-storying, drawing and painting, D&D, SF&F, mystery novels, good movies, theater, music, dudes, dogs. I used to include “politics” in that list, but it’s not fun anymore. I’ll leave it at that for now.
